💛 Help for Caregivers

Many older adults rely on family members, partners, or friends to help them manage their health and medications. This page is for people caring for older adults in Canada.

It does not replace advice from your own health-care provider or the provider of the person you care for.

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You're doing important work

Caring for someone you love can be one of the most meaningful things you do — and also one of the most challenging. You are not alone.

1. 👥 Your role as a caregiver

Caregivers often help with:

📅 Keeping track of appointments and test results
💊 Managing medications and refills
👀 Watching for changes in memory, mood, or physical health
🍽️ Supporting daily activities such as meals, bathing, or shopping
📞 Communicating with health-care providers

💛 It's okay to have mixed feelings

This work can be meaningful, but also tiring. It is normal to feel worried, frustrated, or overwhelmed at times. These feelings don't mean you're failing — they mean you're human.

2. 💊 Helping with medications safely

Medications can be confusing, especially when there are many pills from different doctors. As a caregiver, you can help by:

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Keeping an up-to-date medication list that includes:
  • All prescription medications
  • Over-the-counter medicines (such as pain or cold medicines)
  • Vitamins and herbal products
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Bringing the medication list (or pill bottles) to every medical appointment
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Asking the pharmacist to print a clear list of current medications
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Using a pill organizer, if it is safe and helpful
Helping with timing — assisting the person to take medicines at the right times, if they agree

⚠️ Important safety note

Do not change doses or stop medications on your own. Always speak with the doctor, nurse practitioner, or pharmacist first.

3. 📅 Preparing for medical appointments

You can help appointments go more smoothly by preparing ahead:

✅ Before the appointment

  • Write down the main concerns or symptoms you have noticed
  • Bring:
    • The medication list or all pill bottles
    • Recent blood pressure, blood sugar, or weight records if you keep them
    • Any home monitoring device (such as a blood pressure machine), if asked
  • Ask the person you care for what questions they want to ask
  • Ask if they would like you in the room, or nearby, during the visit

📝 During the appointment

  • Take notes, or ask the provider if you may record instructions on your phone
  • Ask the provider to explain medical terms in simple language
  • Repeat back what you heard, to make sure you understood correctly

💡 Helpful tip

If the appointment feels rushed, it's okay to say: "I want to make sure I understand. Can you explain that one more time?"

4. 👀 Watching for changes and warning signs

As a caregiver, you are often the first to notice changes. Pay attention to:

🧠 New or worsening confusion, memory problems, or sudden behaviour changes
🚶 New weakness, unsteadiness, or falls
😔 Changes in sleep, appetite, or mood
😮‍💨 Shortness of breath, chest discomfort, or new swelling in legs/feet
🚽 Changes in urination (much more or less, or pain/blood in urine)

If you notice gradual changes or new concerns, call the person's regular health-care provider (family doctor, nurse practitioner, or clinic).

🚨 Call 911 immediately if you see:

  • Severe chest pain
  • Stroke symptoms (face drooping, arm weakness, speech difficulty)
  • Major trouble breathing
  • The person is very hard to wake
  • Any situation that feels like an emergency

Trust your instincts. If something feels seriously wrong, get help immediately.

5. 🤝 Respecting independence and choices

Older adults may still be able to make their own decisions, even if they need help with some tasks. When possible:

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Ask first

Ask what the person wants help with, and what they prefer to do themselves

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Involve them

Include them in decisions about treatments, medications, and daily routines

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Respect their values

Honor their preferences, even if they differ from your own

💡 If you're concerned about decision-making

If you are worried that the person's memory or decision-making is changing, talk with their health-care provider. They can help assess the situation and discuss options with you and the person you care for.

6. 💛 Taking care of yourself as a caregiver

Caring for someone else can affect your own physical and emotional health. It is not selfish to take care of yourself — it is necessary.

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Keep your own appointments

Try to maintain your own medical appointments and health routines

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Ask for help

Reach out to other family members or friends when possible

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Find support

Look for local caregiver support groups or online communities

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Talk about it

Speak with your health-care provider if you feel burned out, anxious, or depressed

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Take breaks

Even short breaks help — a walk, quiet time, or a cup of tea

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If you are feeling overwhelmed or unsafe, reach out to a trusted health professional or support service.

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not failure.

7. ❓ Questions to ask health-care providers

You can print these questions and bring them to appointments:

What is the main problem we are dealing with right now?
What are the goals of treatment for this condition at this stage of life?
Which medications are essential, and which might be reviewed or reduced over time?
What side effects should we watch for at home?
Who should we call if we have questions between visits?
Are there community resources or support services for caregivers in our area?

📚 Canadian Caregiver Resources

These organizations offer support for caregivers across Canada:

🍁 Carers Canada

National voice for family caregivers

carerscanada.ca

📞 211 Canada

Connect to local health and social services

211.ca

🧠 Alzheimer Society

Support for dementia caregivers

alzheimer.ca

❤️ Heart & Stroke

Resources for cardiac care

heartandstroke.ca

💡 Local resources

Ask the person's health-care provider about caregiver support programs in your community. Many hospitals and health regions offer free programs for family caregivers.

⚠️ Important Disclaimer

The information on SeniorHealthGuide.ca is general and may not fit your exact situation. It is for education only.

It does not replace medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Only health professionals who know your medical history, and the history of the person you care for, can tell you what is right in your situation.

Never start, stop, or change any medication, or make major changes to diet or activity, without checking with a doctor, nurse practitioner, or pharmacist. For full details, see our disclaimer.